Sex(less) Drive

If you’re wondering why you’re never in the mood for some sexual healing, it could be because of numerous things. From your schedule to whether or not your subconscious is on the same page with your sexual needs- it all affects your needs as well as your overall performance. We’ll name a few and you can make judgments under your own terms.

Being overly occupied

If there’s one thing that can kill your sex drive faster, it’s having a hundred + one things to do. You’re secretly prioritizing when you should do your laundry, when your sister’s birthday is again, what you’ll do when your friend Charlie comes in from New York, how many hours of sleep you’ll get after this, and don’t forget whether or not that charge will post on your account in the morning. With all that going on its no wonder you can’t get an erection/get lubricated the way you need to for some pleasurable exercise.

Underlying conflicts

Through numerous studies, it’s been proven that women are most self-conscious about their bodies. If it’s the first time they’re going to engage in intimacy, there’s a chance that they’re thinking about how they look at that angle instead of focusing on what’s important – reaching that orgasmic level of pure satisfaction.

Stressful day = no mojo in your pants

Above all else, stress is the biggest cock-block to ever roam the earth. It’s practically impossible to get in the mood when you’re stressed out about something. Whatever it is will inevitably take over your emotions; take over your mind- inevitably, taking over your sexual performance. Do yourself a favor, take a deep breath & exhale. Let go of the stress and try to concentrate on how hot your partner looks, hopefully that’ll get things moving in the right direction.

These are some of the few, but some of the few that are most detrimental. Just remember to clear your mind and enjoy the ride!

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Don’t waste an opportunity to orgasm

Sex alone can be quite stressful, especially when it’s the first time with your current partner. Although there are probably endless tips on how to enhance an orgasm, we thought we’d focus on three particular things that might get in the way of an orgasm- these are especially true for women. Avoid thinking the following things while you’re getting busy, we wouldn’t want you to waste a perfectly good orgasm opportunity!

Avoid thinking of anything on your “to-do” list 
Women are infamous for creating lists- chore lists, grocery lists, list of bills, ect. Also, depending on your profession, work-related tasks may run through your head as things begin to get hot and heavy. It shouldn’t happen, you shouldn’t be thinking about your next task at hand. Don’t think about stopping to get gas on your way home, and definitely don’t think about what you need to buy during your next Target run. Focus on the lover in front of you; think of what you can do to please them.

Avoid thinking about how you look at that moment
C’mon, let’s be realistic- you’re having sex not shooting a five page spread for Vanity Fair. Don’t think of what angle is your best, what side your lover is seeing you from. Stressing about what you look like is only going to prolong the wait until you’re the big O. Instead of focusing on your body, why don’t you focus on your lover’s – chances are you’ll become more aroused once you feel their body up a bit.

Avoid trying to foresee your future 
The more you wonder, “when is it going to happen?” the more anxious your body gets; the more anxious your body gets the less likely it is to relax enough to feel any kind of pleasure. Just relax and enjoy the ride, no pun intended.

To summarize, you should worry less about you and redirect that energy into adding pleasure to the entire experience. Chances are, the more your partner is satisfied, the more they’ll want to return the favor.

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